“First love” A lot of us, if not
all, have a certain person in our minds when these two words are mentioned. And
when we talk about our first love, we don’t notice but it makes us feel young again.
Reminiscing the sweet memories of you and your first love would either make our
eyes gleam or our stomach filled with thousands of butterflies.
First loves are really important
because it determines how you are will be in your future
relationships. But what if our first love becomes an ‘unrequited love’?
The memories
“Human memories are too vague. Thinking something has color when it
doesn't, making things more dramatic than they really are, glorifying
things...” – Yano Motoharu, Bokura Ga Ita (We Were There)
Memories are like time travelling
machines we tend to cling on when we miss someone, and in the case of our first
love those memories are probably so ‘beautiful’ to forget. We picture it as if
it was a scene from a movie. The image of the person we first loved becomes so
beautiful not because they physically are but because we spend some innocent
and sweet moments with them. And of course, the poignant part of all the
reminiscing is the fact that we can’t really go back to that old times. This is
where the difference between the first love with a ‘happily ever after’ ending
and the ‘unfulfilled’ first love comes in. because when you have left a lot of
things unsaid, we always remember those moments. Thus, memories still remain
and we always think of all the ‘what if’ and ‘what could have been’
Admit it or not, we are naïve or
a bit stupid at the time of our first love. Impulsively, we love
unconditionally or expect a lot. We almost do the impossible just for the
person we first love. We are too passionate about it that when we finally come
to face parting time, we have our high hopes shattered and our hearts broken.
You cried buckets of tears thinking that we can’t experience it again and it’ll
be hard to love again. It then becomes one of the most dramatic moments of our lives,
just like what Rod Stewart said “First cut is always the deepest”
The Art of Letting Go
Yes, you can’t forget the person
you first loved (not unless you dramatically had amnesia) but the feelings will
subside. It is just a matter of acceptance. You may reminisce those memories
some times and consider it as a good ones but don’t wish to go back.
Move forward.
First love is a period of time. It
never comes back. But why regret and cling to a past when there is a much
better future. I think we can get over with our first by finding a next love.
It may take time but someone will surely come. It might not be as innocent as
the first love but it would be a little more mature. Besides, you do not know
then what you do know now. All our first love leaves something to us, whether
it is a lesson or a memory.
Whatever the outcome of your
first love is; still together or sadly parted ways, one thing is for sure:
First Love is hard to forget but eventually you can IN TIME.
